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Subtle Signs Your Spouse Is Cheating

Published on by Elizabeth HeinLeave a comment

Yesterday we discussed the obvious signs that a spouse is cheating. A person has to actively choose to ignore those signs, for whatever reason. Sometimes though, a spouse can be more subtle in their cheating. In Overlook, Kitty missed all these clues that her husband was cheating on her.

Less Obvious Signs That Your Spouse Is Cheating

  1. They shower you with gifts. Guilt motivates people to give lavish gifts. What does that diamond bracelet really mean?
  2. No one talks to you at his company Christmas party. If his or her coworkers avoid you, they know about the affair and don’t know what to say to you. If they won’t make eye contact at all, the other woman or man is probably in the room.
  3. They seem bored with their life – their job, the kids, things they used to find interesting.
  4. They start seeking out danger or thrills.
  5. They get a new cellphone that you do not have the password for.
  6. They change the passwords on their computer.
  7. Your sex life changes – more activity, less activity, different activity.
  8. They become a clam or a Chatty Cathy – Your spouse talks in three words sentences or they start asking you a million questions, only about you.
  9. Every other word out of their mouth is a criticism. If your previously pleasant spouse starts criticizing your appearance, your ability to do your work, or personality, question why. Are they making you out to be less-than-acceptable to assuage their guilt?
  10. They seem uninterested in family traditions and get togethers.

Sources:

How to Spot Signs of Infidelity
Warning Signs of Cheating Spouses
Nip Infidelity in the Bud

Signs That Your Spouse Is Cheating

Published on by Elizabeth HeinLeave a comment

The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy claims that 15% of wives and 25% of husbands cheat. Other studies report much higher percentages. The surveys also show that people usually know that their spouse is cheating, although they may choose to ignore it. When I was doing research for Overlook, I ran across some classic signs of infidelity. You’d have to work hard to ignore these.

The Classics:

  1. Your spouse suddenly looks fabulous. Has your hubby bought some new shirts and sent the old ratty ones with the missing buttons to Good Will? Has your wife started coloring her hair? Have they join a gym? It’s not for your benefit.
  2. Your spouse has new underwear that you didn’t buy for them. Have the plain white boxers been replaced by slim fitting silky togs? Those sexy new underthings aren’t for your benefit.
  3. There are strange charges on the your credit card.
  4. Their clothes smell like someone else’s perfume or cologne. You’d have to work hard to ignore this clue.
  5. They are often working late. Unless their job has changed, question new overtime or late meetings.
  6. You used to be the-other-woman. What makes you think he/she would change?
  7. You have an STD when you have not strayed.

Sources:

How to Spot Signs of Infidelity
Warning Signs of Cheating Spouses
Nip Infidelity in the Bud