While researching the topic of domestic violence for an upcoming book, I came across this interesting TED talk from last year and wanted to share it with my readers. I am considering introducing the topic of domestic violence into the second book in my Overlook series, but it is a complex subject and I want to get it right. Also, that series takes place in 1976, so I have to be clear about how domestic abuse was treated then by the police and by society.
Anyway, I liked the connections Jackson Katz makes in this video between people’s attitudes towards domestic violence and society’s need to maintain the status quo. He also stresses the need for men to speak out against violence of all sorts as bystanders and peers. It’s worth watching.
I have been researching different forms of depression and how they are treated for one of my current works in progress, and came across this wonderful TED talk. It is a bit long but it was well worth the time.
I feel it is important to hear him say “The opposite of depression is not happiness, but vitality, and it was vitality that seemed to seep away from me in that moment.” when he is talking about the debilitating depression he experienced. I don’t think the general public appreciate how difficult it is for a depressed person to get through the daily chores of regular life. It is not about feeling sad, it is about not being able to get out of bed to brush your teeth because it sounds like too much work.
Depression is a serious illness that has been treated in many different ways over the years. I am fascinated by how the same illness was seen at the turn of the twentieth century versus today. I am still very much at the beginning of my research process, yet I have already learned a great deal. I will bring you tidbits as I learn more. If you know anything about the treatment of depression either in the 1910’s or in the 1950’s, I would love to pick your brain as background for my current work-in-progress.
I love learning about words. I never suspected that the word window came from the Norse.
If you enjoyed this video, check out the other 12 Mysteries of the Vernacular at TEDEd.
I found this TED talk both entertaining and enlightening. I chose the picture on the cover of Overlook because I felt it was evocative of the setting (a lakeside community) while hinting that everything was not well in the scene. It hints that there is more under the placid lake surface than meets the eye.
When you look a book’s cover, what are you looking for? What draws you in? The picture or drawing? The title?
Pamela Meyer makes many fabulous points in this TED Talk. I want to focus on just one – Lying is a cooperative act.
Over my last two posts, I’ve discussed how to tell if a spouse is cheating. Today I’d like to talk about how infidelity doesn’t happen in a vacuum. A liar lies to someone who either believes the lie or doesn’t. In Overlook, Kitty Haskell chooses to ignore her husband’s infidelity. She saw the signs, but it was inconvenient to acknowledge them. It didn’t serve her purposes to be the wronged wife. She liked her life as a loving wife and mother. She would have gone on ignoring her husband’s behavior – until she couldn’t anymore.